Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming Parent-child Relationships from Reaction And Struggle to Freedom, Power And Joy

This book has been really amazing for me!

I have been able to see things about myself and understand why I am the way I am. I am able to stop or heal my own hurts and with hope not pass them on to my children.

I feel that this book has done a lot to heal my depression, and also give an in-site to my own brain.

There are HEAPS of tips on how to talk to your children and how to work with them.

This book I feel has a great resemblance to Pam Leo’s book. Both are very good. Pam’s is short and to the point for people who need just a kick start into respecting children and Naomi’s book is the deep in-site.

Naomi talks about our almost subconscious way of talking to children and in some case our other loved ones. We use fear to force control, we use shame ie …oh you didn’t eat all your dinner or oh look at you your grub no one will want to hug that mess. Naomi talks a lot about crying as well which I find really important. No one should be left alone to cry (unless this is what they really want). Many parents will do anything to distract their child from crying instead of letting the child relase what ever hurt they have in a safe and loveing environment – meaning parents holding, sitting and listening or being close by to be there once they have let loose all their hurts.

This is a big area and becasue of this book I might right a lot more about crying and the need to understand our emotions.

A GREAT BOOK!